Archive for June, 2006
Are You My Soul Mate?
I’m always dumbfounded when someone walks up to me and declares that they either have not found their soul mate or says, “There are no soul mates out there for me.”
Obviously, they don’t know how to look for the signs or how to read them once they do find them. There are millions, maybe even trillions, of people in the world who have soul mates, and there are clues within these soul mate relationships which could help you find yours. I am going to explain these clues so that you will find your soul mate(s), too.
Sign #1: Spiritual intuition
You see a nice looking fellow standing in line at the grocery store who has such spark and charisma and you wonder what it is about him that catches your attention. Is it his appearance? His charm? His funny way of cocking his head while conversing with the cashier?
You want to learn more about him. You have this pull towards him, yet you do nothing. You leaf through a magazine, appearing to be invisible, yet you yearn to walk right up to the stranger and introduce yourself. By the time you have found the nerve, he has checked out and is on his way to his car (and out of your life!).
What was that, you wonder?
That was one of your soul mates that you just let get away.
How do I know that?
Spiritual intuition is the number one sign to look for when confronting a possible soul mate. It is your innerself bonding with the spiritual insides of another. The bond is invisible, yet it lies deep within you and cannot be mistaken. It is that strong pull you feel towards another. Unfortunately, if you don’t take action when this happens, you will let your possible soul mate get away and you will have destroyed what could have been a long, happy relationship.
Clue #2: Positive karma
Janice works long hours at the newspaper office after the breakup of her long eighteen-year marriage to Matt, an abusive alcoholic who didn’t have anything better to do than knock Janice and their three kids around when he was on his drinking sprees.
To ease the pain, she works constantly, keeping her mind off her past and providing a comfortable living for her and her three children. She has succeeded in getting rid of the negativity in her life and is working on the positive.
Matt, a divorcee, also, can be found working alongside her most days, trying to make deadlines and shielding himself from the memories of his own troubled marriage.
Neither dates, but feels comfortable in maintaining a friendly relationship with one another in the safety of their work environment.
Is this a soul mate union bound to happen?
Both are emitting positive karma towards the other and, yes, a soul mate bond is, most definitely, in the future. This is an example of the karmic soul mate relationship. All signs look good towards it becoming more, but meanwhile what they have is one of the richest relationships you could ask for.
Friends—close friends—are one of the most important of the soul mate relationships out there. This is the bond that ties two perfectly ordinary people together with no strings attached. What other kind of relationship allows you to do what you want, when you want, with no questions asked?
Will this relationship turn into something more? It is very possible that, over time, once everyone has healed from past relationships, Janice and Matt will find out that being friends is the first requisite to finding lifelong commitment, if that is what they are both looking for. Only time will tell, but don’t ignore these close relationships. They are necessary for your happiness, well-being, and your search for self-fulfillment.
Clue #3: Being in the right place at the right time
They say timing is everything and it couldn’t be truer than for the soul mate relationship.
Melissa was a college student studying for her law degree, something she wanted more than life itself.
Jeff was a student at the same college aiming for a degree in anthropology that was taking too long to acquire, in his opinion, but he was determined he was going to have that piece of paper if it took a lifetime to acquire.
While both took classes at the same school, they would frequently find themselves at the same social functions and parties. While there was an evident spark whenever the two were around each other, both had their hearts set on their own goals of finishing college and starting with their career plans before settling into cozy relationships. In essence, they were still looking for their own self-fulfillment before they could be available to fulfill others.
Five years after Melissa graduated and was comfortably situated into her own practice, she had the surprise of her life when Jeff happened to walk into her law office asking for advice. Imagine his surprise when he found out this was the same Melissa that he had a secret crush on all those years!
I’m happy to report that Melissa and Jeff picked up right where they left off, as if time had never passed. Next June, there will be a formal wedding and a reception held at the same college where they both met.
Sometimes you have to remember that even though your potential soul mate might cross your path at some point in time, there may be extenuating circumstances which will prevent the union from happening, but when the time is right and everything falls into place, it will happen. Patience is a virtue and when the signs all point to go, nothing can be more fulfilling than the soul mate relationship.
June 15th, 2006
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I met my husband here last January 2002. We were both trying our luck to see if we could find the right person. I was the one who first saw his profile and sent him an interest. He also sent an interest to me but neither of us were gold members yet, so I just thought it would be impossible to communicate. One February morning, I checked my email to find out that James had signed up as a gold member. We started communicating, introduced ourselves and sending photos.
When I sensed that I started to like him more, I suddenly realized that it was impossible for us to be with each other, and I wasn’t sure what would happen to the friendship. I stopped replying to his emails, talking to him online or answering his phone calls.
He sent me an email saying he might be coming over to the Philippines, and begged me to take his phone call. When we spoke the next day he told me that he really liked me and that he would not let me just walk past his life without really seeing me in person and knowing me more. I was so overwhelmed by what he said.
On September 2002, after 7 months of talking and exchanging emails, he flew to my country from Los Angeles and changed both of our lives forever. We realized that we were not only alike, but we fell in love. We got married after one week, and now I’m writing this note here in my apartment in San Diego. We are still loving and knowing each other. And we both thank you, Date.com. |
June 15th, 2006
If your significant other breaks up with you, two of the best things you can do to get her back are:
1- Act like you’re okay with her decision to leave.
2- Start dating other people and let her know about it.
This combination alone is usually enough to make her come back to you.
Jealousy is powerful. It’s far more powerful than most people suspect.
A situation where girl “A” didn’t have any feelings for you until she saw you with girl “B” is the rule, not the exception.
Jealousy causes people to do crazy things and feel very powerful emotions… from love to hate.
Trying to “get her back” is a losing game in most situations, because the act alone suggests that you’re needy (especially when you don’t even know a woman very well, and you’re trying to “get her back” after one or two dates).
The best thing to do is get on with your life, then call your ex-girlfriend in a month or two to see if she wants to have coffee.
Don’t talk about heavy things, and don’t mention anything about what happened. Just be casual.
June 15th, 2006
This is an interesting subject.
I think that most guys smile too much when they’re talking to women that they’re attracted to. Now, I have to modify what I just said a bit.
How about this: Most guys smile in a way that looks like fake-approval-seeking-wussy-man when they’re talking to women that they’re attracted to.
I recommend that most guys learn how to control all aspects of their body language so they can quit doing things that make them seem needy, apologetic, like they’re trying to get a woman’s approval, etc.
And smiling is one of those aspects.
That said, I know guys who smile a lot when they’re meeting women, and they do very well.
What’s their secret?
They make the right moves, so their smiling doesn’t come across as them trying to be liked, kissing up to a woman, etc.
Do what works for you.
But if you’ve been the kind of guy that tries to get women to “like you” in the past, then you’d probably benefit from learning how to smile less, and be cocky & funny more.
June 15th, 2006
The feeling of being in love is one of the most exhilarating feelings that anyone could ever experience. Because of this, it’s very obvious when people are in love. You could see it in their face, their actions, and you can hear it in their voice. There are several reasons why it’s healthy to fall in love once in a while, despite the possibility of heartbreak. Here are the top reasons why it’s good to be in love:
Whenever you’re in love, you feel very inspired. It’s not very surprising that great poets and artists came up with some of their most beautiful works when they were in love. For some reason, being in love opens your heart and mind to new ideas, allowing you to be filled with life. Whether you work as an office secretary or a photographer, your feelings of being in love are often reflected in your work.
You always want to look your best when you’re in love. It’s true - you pay more attention to the way you dress and your personal hygiene when you’re in love. This is because you want to attract the object of your affections, and you get a better chance of doing that if you always look your best. Some people even buy new clothes or shoes during this time. But the grooming tips you apply are more important than the additional clothes you acquire.
You’re constantly trying to improve yourself whenever you’re in love. Most people try to gain new skills and talents whenever they’re in love. This is because we always want to be the best person we can possibly be when we’re in love. Regardless of how your relationship goes, the skills and things you learn from being in love will be with you for the rest of your life.
You learn more about the art of loving. After every romantic experience, you always learn more things about yourself as a lover. You learn from your mistakes, as well as from the things you do right. You also get to learn more about the opposite sex and how to deal with different personality types. It’s definitely good to be in love, because you grow as a person as a result of your experiences.
Being in love allows you to explore other interests, especially the interests of your lover. It’s almost impossible to be 100% compatible with someone else. As a result, you get to be exposed to the interests of your partner that are different from yours. For example, if your partner is into sports, that gives you the chance to play or watch sports whenever you’re together. This is a good thing, because you get to explore different interests that you wouldn’t have tried if you weren’t in love.
All of the reasons are good enough for you to take the leap and fall in love. Of course, this type of feeling comes naturally - you can’t force yourself to be in love. When the opportunity arises, don’t be afraid to take it because falling in love can bring you several experiences that you’ll definitely be better for.
June 15th, 2006
You don’t have to look too hard to find love. There are several places and opportunities that will allow you to do this. All you have to do is to keep your eyes (and your heart) open. Below is a list of different places and events where you are likely to find the love of your life.
Educational places like your college, seminars, and workshops are great venues to find love. When you go out there in search of knowledge, try to be aware that you’re also looking for something more. Most long-term couples start out in college, and it’s no surprise why. College is a great place for people to meet and interact, whether it’s in class or in parties. Seminars and workshops are much better, because you’re surrounded with people who have the same interests as yours.
Weddings are a great way to mingle with single people. The bouquet and garter throwing parts of the wedding reception can tell you who is single and who isn’t. It’s also a great venue to contemplate on love and dating, and you can even work these into conversations with your prospects.
Taking a walk, especially with your dog, is a great way to meet other people. If you’re taking your dog for a walk, it’s best to do it in a dog park where you can meet other people with dogs. Oftentimes, dogs use this opportunity to find playmates and other dogs to hang out with. You can do the same for yourself. Also, women tend to come closer to guys with cute dogs - you don’t have to go around looking for dating prospects since they’ll come to you!
Bars, clubs, and parties are a great, casual place to meet new people. However, you won’t get a lot of talking done in these places. The best thing to do when you find someone you like in a club is to ask for their number and give them a call. Invite them to a place or event that will allow you to get to know each other better.
Going to online dating sites is also a good way to find love. The best part about this method is that you’re not limited by geography. Advanced searches in online dating websites can also help you look for your ideal mate in terms of their body type, interests, and hobbies. You can also casually meet people online in messageboards, and who knows, you might fall in love with the way one of the members writes.
Speed dating services are also an excellent way to find love. You get to spend a few minutes with a variety of people. You get to ask them questions, you get to talk to them about anything you want, and then you’ll take your pick. The speed dating service will match you up with one of your choices who has also chosen you. It’s a great way to meet someone you have instant chemistry with.
June 15th, 2006
Believing In Love at First Sight
Love at first sight is something that many of us do no believe in until it happens to us. At some point, many of us have an experience where we walk into a room, a club, a friend’s house, wherever and we happen to lock eyes with someone so perfect that we can’t look away. We are immediately filled with anticipation and excitement, and the eye contact continues throughout the night until you finally talk. When you finally do speak, you just seem to click. You like the same things, you finish each other’s sentences, and you are sure that this is what love at first sight is all about.
The love at first sight sensation is as real as the perfect person sitting in front of you, or so it seems. The way we react in a new relationship of any sort isn’t always natural, so as you get to know one another better things may begin to seem not so perfect. Once you step outside of the overwhelming sensations of getting to know someone new you might realize that this isn’t love at first site, but lust at first sight. And, that’s not always a bad thing! Sometimes, the most intense lust can turn to love, so don’t assume that you should just give up as soon as you realize it’s not real love at first sight.
Love at first sight is something that many people believe in because they’ve had it happen to them. Others are a bit jaded because those that they thought were their love at first sight happened to be anything but a dream. Either way, it’s a powerful experience to have felt so connected to another individual so quickly that you were able to call it love. Whether it lasts is something that is totally individual and unique to each relationship, but it is possible. So, do you believe?
June 15th, 2006
English - I love you
Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief
Albanian - Te dua
Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)
Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)
Armenian - Yes kez sirumen
Bambara - M’bi fe
Bengali - Ami tomake bhalobashi (pronounced: Amee toe-ma-kee bhalo-bashee)
Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu
Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo
Bulgarian - Obicham te
Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah
Cantonese Chinese - Ngo oiy ney a
Catalan - T’estimo
Cherokee - Tsi ge yu i (Thanks Nancy!)
Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse
Chichewa - Ndimakukonda
Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)
Creol - Mi aime jou
Croatian - Volim te
Czech - Miluji te
Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig
Dutch - Ik hou van jou
Elvish - Amin mela lle (from The Lord of The Rings, by J.R.R. Tolkien)
Esperanto - Mi amas vin
Estonian - Ma armastan sind
Ethiopian - Afgreki’
Faroese - Eg elski teg
Farsi - Doset daram
Filipino - Mahal kita
Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua
French - Je t’aime, Je t’adore
Frisian - Ik hâld fan dy
Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort
Georgian - Mikvarhar
German - Ich liebe dich
Greek - S’agapo
Gujarati - Hoo thunay prem karoo choo
Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw
Hawaiian - Aloha Au Ia`oe
Hebrew (Thanks Lilach)
Hebrew to male: “ani ohev otcha” (said by male) “Ohevet ot’cha” (said by female)
Hebrew to female: “ani ohev otach” (said by male) “ohevet Otach” (said by female)
Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw
Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae
Hmong - Kuv hlub koj
Hopi - Nu’ umi unangwa’ta
Hungarian - Szeretlek(Thanks Dóra!)
Icelandic - Eg elska tig
Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw
Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu
Inuit - Negligevapse
Irish - Taim i’ ngra leat
Italian - Ti amo
Japanese - Aishiteru
Kannada - Naanu ninna preetisuttene
Kapampangan - Kaluguran daka
Kiswahili - Nakupenda
Konkani - Tu magel moga cho
Korean - Sarang Heyo
Latin - Te amo
Latvian - Es tevi miilu
Lebanese - Bahibak
Lithuanian - Tave myliu
Luxembourgeois - Ech hun dech gäer
Macedonian - Te Sakam
Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu
Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu
Maltese - Inhobbok
Mandarin Chinese - Wo ai ni
Marathi - Me tula prem karto
Mohawk - Kanbhik
Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik
Nahuatl - Ni mits neki
Navaho - Ayor anosh’ni
Norwegian - Jeg Elsker Deg
Pandacan - Syota na kita!!
Pangasinan - Inaru Taka
Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo
Persian - Doo-set daaram
Pig Latin - Iay ovlay ouyay
Polish - Kocham Ciebie
Portuguese - Eu te amo
Romanian - Te iubesc
Russian - Ya tebya liubliu
Scot Gaelic - Tha gra\dh agam ort
Serbian - Volim te
Setswana - Ke a go rata
Sign Language - ,\,,/ (represents position of fingers when signing’I Love You’)
Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan
Sioux - Techihhila
Slovak - Lu`bim ta
Slovenian - Ljubim te
Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo
Swahili - Ninapenda wewe
Swedish - Jag alskar dig
Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di
Surinam - Mi lobi joe
Tagalog - Mahal kita
Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li
Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Tamil - Nan unnai kathalikaraen
Telugu - Nenu ninnu premistunnanu
Thai - Chan rak khun (to male)
Thai - Phom rak khun (to female)
Turkish - Seni Seviyorum
Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu
Urdu - mai aap say pyaar karta hoo
Vietnamese - Anh ye^u em (to female)
Vietnamese - Em ye^u anh (to male)
Welsh - ‘Rwy’n dy garu di
Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh
Yoruba - Mo ni fe
June 2nd, 2006